Wednesday, May 11, 2011
Tooting Your Own Horn.
I like myself. Maybe a lot. Some people think that means that I am self absorbed or think that I am better than others but anyone who knows me knows that could not be further from true. There is a very fine line... that I am sure I sometimes cross ...when telling people about things that have come my way through hard work and determination.
Those who listen and are confident in their own lives get inspired and those who are not happy think I am tooting my own horn.
Which makes me think about how funny life is and how trying to please everyone is such a laugh worthy goal. Depending on the stage of your life we all see the same situation in our own way. In the last few years of my life I have tried very hard to always remember that when dealing with people. I say tried because well I am human and have bad days (or even weeks) too.
One of my bad weeks was just recently when I had been feeling a little off my game and in transition which always makes me feel a little insecure. I have feelings of not living up to standards and I miss meetings and I worry about my body image and it is just not good. Well I happened to have a survey out there for an art group I founded to find out why membership is down and how we can change it to improve that. It was an anonymous survey so it was full of constructive and honest raw criticism which was great and then there was this comment when asked what you would like to see more of at the meetings.... "Less talk about how great Kim is and more about community projects" Yikes. Of course this hit me in a bad week where I was doubtful of myself and every move I have ever made in my life and I let it get me even further down. Why would someone say something like that other than to be hurtful?
HOW UNFAIR. You know why....
Because I am great. I do great things mostly out of the love of my community. I do great things because I want to surround myself with other great people. I do great things because I find that by doing great things I feel complete which to me is far more rewarding that a paycheck (which is a trait many if not most find unbelievable)
The comment was even more unfair because I honestly 100% think that....
YOU are capable of doing great things and feeling good about them. YOU can like yourself without worrying about what others think about you. YOU can do great things. YOU are great.
That includes the anonymous person who commented and tried to ruin my day. Although that must have been one of your off days...YOU are great xx.
be happy! Kim